Redefining 'Best Gifts for Dad': A Guide to Meaningful Gift Shopping for Dads

The truth is, we dads are tired of receiving gifts from the 'best gifts for dads' lists. You know the ones – the engraved hammer, the cheesy grill set, or the coffee mug with its own little warming pad, often adorned with 'best dad' or other generic phrases. These gifts don't excite us. They can be frustrating, feeling like money was spent on something rather trivial; they sometimes seem thoughtless, and they don't reflect who we are beyond the basic 'dad' stereotype. Not to be ungrateful, but if that's what you're considering for us, we'd rather you save your money. We know you love us, and that's enough.

Don't get us wrong; we absolutely love being your dad. But we're individuals too, with our own wants, desires, and personalities, just like you and just like mom. Our interests may not always be obvious. Society often tells us that dads need to set aside personal interests to provide for and support the family, always being there when needed, ensuring happiness and health. Only recently has the narrative begun to shift, recognizing that being a good dad also involves taking time for ourselves. Focusing on health, fitness, mental well-being, and general wellness is integral to fatherhood.

Real and good dads lead by example. You'll notice a trend of dads being their authentic selves rather than conforming to a standard dad mold. Our aim is to demonstrate that by taking care of ourselves and embracing our true selves, we can lead happy and fulfilled lives. We hope this inspires you to become the best version of yourself. Here are ways to start seeing your dad for who he really is:

1. Ask About His Childhood: Simple questions can reveal a lot.

• “What was your favorite band or musical artist in high school and college?” Perhaps there's a concert or cover band he'd enjoy.

• “What did you do on Saturday mornings with no responsibilities?” This could unearth fond memories of shows, activities, or toys.

• “What did you dream of becoming when you grew up?” This might inspire a gift that rekindles an old passion.

2. Join Him in His Hobby: Spending time together is priceless. Even if his hobby isn’t your ideal scenario, your interest and participation mean a lot. For example, if he enjoys golf, accompany him for a round. Notice his preferences – what brand of clubs does he favor? Does he need new golf balls or a better range finder? These observations can lead to thoughtful gift ideas.

3. Explore Free Time Fantasies: Ask your dad what he would do if he had more free time. Perhaps he has interests he hasn't pursued yet. Helping him start a new hobby or delve into an interest can be an incredibly meaningful gift.

4. Propose a Game Night: I wasn't the biggest board game person growing up, or even in my early adult life. However, once you become a parent, even if a dad spends a healthy amount of time hanging out with the boys, playing video games, running, hitting the gym, or engaging in other activities that get you out of the house, there will still be plenty of time spent at home with the family. Families often find themselves engaged in solitary activities like scrolling through phones or watching movies. A board game night can break this monotony and create lasting memories.

5. Inquire About His Personal Progress: Showing interest in our growth is important too. Simply asking and listening to us motivates us to keep going and emphasizes the importance of continuing to lead by example. Questions like:

• “What is your favorite thing to do at the gym?”

• “What helps you from being sore?”

• “What are your favorite supplements to use?”

• “What change or implementation has impacted you the most this year?”

These questions will open a range of options for you to support your dad in his health and wellness journey. It also shows that you want him to be around for a long time.

A thoughtful gift that aligns with your dad's personality, interests, or hobbies says, 'I see you, Dad. I pay attention, understand you, and love you.' He can enjoy these gifts guilt-free, knowing he didn’t divert family resources for his own interests. Every time he uses that gift, he'll remember your effort and thoughtfulness, deepening the bond between you.